DISTANCE PARTNERS

Distance cannot, and will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment, and love. Although you may feel like you are losing faith in your relationship at times, hold fast and trust your heart! I, like you, truly believe that love & relationships are what make your life special, and that ones built on love & understanding are always worth preserving, regardless of the miles that may separate two people.

Below are some of the advices,, that could help u, although they may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your distance relationship. Consider some of the below do and don’t list and together with your desire, I am pretty sure you are able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and fun.

Do’s

1) Establish an effective communication channel. The very first thing that you must do in a long distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Most people will think that telephone is the most convenient mode of communication but apart from the telephone services, there are some other alternative you can use. Instant messenger, emails, VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.
2) Plan to meet each other. There is nothing more important than planning to meet each other again at an interval of time throughout the period of your long distance relationship. This will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things that you cannot do while apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement, hope and as well as eliminating the lonely feeling in your LDR.
3) Build hobby that you can both share, By building and keeping a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach ability but never leave out conventional hobby as well because you do not need to have your partner’s physical present to share a hobby.
4) Surprise your partner Occasionally surprise you partner with cards, gifts, letter and flower out of their expectation apart from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will be sure to love your effort in keeping them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always spice up your distance relationship regardless how far your partner may be.
5) Capture and share that interesting moment. Throughout the period of your LDR, you can always capture some interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as audio recording. This will indirectly keep your partner informed on what has happen in your life despite the physical distance.

Don’ts

1) Settle for a temporary replacement. One of the mistakes that a distance relationship couple often make is to settle for a temporary replacement when their partner is not physical around. By letting a third party into your life, you will not only put your distance relationship to risk but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement that you make. Although it may not be done intentionally but this type of mistake will be very costly to your long distance relationship.
2) Take the relationship lightly. The absence of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You must remember that, your partner has their own right to participate in any decision making toward the well being of your relationship regardless where there are. A long distance relationship is also as important as a normal relationship and your partner has their own right to be treated fairly.
3) Wait and see attitude. Most of the failures in distance relationship that we observed are contributed by the wait and see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the LDR will work but at the same time they do not want to put a stop to the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, refrain from walking into one at the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In a LDR, both partners must be committed and proactive in bringing the relationship to a higher level.
4) Suspicion. There are no rooms for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point of your LDR. Although it is easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is apt to do something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your LDR.
5) Succumb to negative comment on LDR Couples in distance relationship always make a mistake by believing that LDR do not work. The negative impression you have in LDR will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided to enter into a long distance relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew it because I had successfully conquered my own distance relationship due to the reason that I am not influence by any of the bad comments I received.

TIPS for YOU

Most of us will say that ,,,, its better if you started as friends. Yes it is true that when you started as friends it will be a great foundation towards love but of course there is also a possibility that when you started courting her after a long time of friendship the girl will tell you that "it’s better for us to be friends..." and that will hurt more because it is so hard to lose a friend which you love most.
I have a friend that need answers to these questions and I hope I could be a help in my own little way.
Q: 1- Is it really safe if you started as friends when you love someone?

A:1- Well depends on the situation (let’s just say you are friends already for long time ,,that’s the scenario),, well its true to someone to say that it is safe to be friend first, but not to all,,, it is more hard actually to admit that you love her not being a friend but more than..... well there two possible reasons .1st ....she might love u more than friend too and 2nd.... love u being just a friend and that hurts.... and might be the end of your friendship .....but you have to try and whatever the answer will be you have to be ready. Actually when you're friends, you don't really have to do anything, just always be there for her... then let nature take its course. There’s a saying that “if you meant to be .. you’re meant to be "if not.... it’s not” but, you know what, when you've been close friends for a long time, you'll come to a point where you have to go to the next stage/level.Either you become best of friends, you part ways, or you become lovers. Maybe when you reach that point, you'll know both where your relationship will-work best.

Q:2.-How would you know that your friendship will last to love and not as a friend only?

A:2.- The best persons that could answer that is you and her..I think as humans we know how to distinguished, if that feeling is just for a friend or for real . Well if you are doing things which is not normal for being a friend, then that’s it

Q:3- How to court a girl?

A:3- If u want to go courting,...it doesn't take that much to make a really nice girl happy. Girls are easy to please..you don't have to be pretentious, just be yourself....the littlest things make girls happy......ike being thoughtful enough to walk with her or accompany her....being thoughtful enough to ask for their opinions as well...even sweet nonsensical things makes them happy...it's really in the purity & sincerity of the feeling ,,your intension...'cause if your feelings is pure and true, it will show...GO AND TELL HER ..What are you waiting for NEW YEAR... 2010 or 2011 of what?? Always remember this -“It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations”- Clarke Wayne